Joylight 8 – Contrastive Analysis

There is a glass of water. It is filled midway with water.

How does it look to you?

• Half full?
• Or half empty?

That is contrastive analysis.

We all adopt different perspectives.

There are no right or wrong.

Only empowering or less efficient perspectives.

The good news is, we have choices.

We can choose to adopt

‘the difference that makes a difference.’

Contrastive Analysis is very useful for finding drivers of an internal representation (submodalities that have an effect on other submodalities) that create the contrast between what was considered a negative experience with what was considered a positive experience.

Where does the difference lies?

How can that help me?

• You can use contrastive analysis to determine how others succeed in an area that you are still not yet effective.
• Contrastive analysis also can help you use strategies that you have successfully adopted in some areas of your life into areas that you are still working to improve on.
• Your performance at a certain activity might vary. Sometimes you are effective, sometimes not. Using contrastive analysis can help to single out what you did or did not do to achieve the desired result.

Steps:

1. Recall a positive experience you had which had a deep impact for you.
2. Go deep into the experience. Soak into all the senses you felt when it happened.
   The sights, the sounds, the smells, the feeling.
3. Take a deep breath, shake it off.
4. Now, recall an unpleasant experience that you have, where you would like to change the meaning of the encounter.
5. Again, go deep into the experience. Soak into all the senses you felt when it happened.
6. What is the difference in submodalities between these two experiences?
7. Recall once more the positive experience.
8. Try to overlap the different submodalities of the positive experience into the negative one.
9. Do it several times.
10. Evaluate. Recall the negative experience. See if your mental representation of the negative experience has changed.

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Joylight 2 – Outcomes

In NLP, outcomes are defined as ‘well-formed conditions’.

The original post by Robert Dilts Encyclopaedia of NLP about the term can be found here.

In simple terms, it can be described as a desired end result after putting it through a checklist of questions to ascertain that it is what you want, it is realistic, achievable and inspiring.

The following are conditions that you can apply for your outcomes.

1. Expressed in positive and affirmative terms.

Focus on what you want to achieve instead of what you do not want.

Your question should be

‘What do I want?’

instead of ‘What do I not want?’ or ‘What do I want to avoid?’

2. Proof

How will you know when you are succeeding or have succeeded?

Evidence falls into two categories

• progress feedback and
• outcome feedback

What is your benchmark for achieving your goal?

Make your outcomes clear.

Keep your language simple and succinct.

3. Details

Have you sort out the finer details?

• Who?
• When?
• Where?
• How?

Right questions are the answers.

Be clear about which areas the finer details applies to. It might not always be that it is relevant to all aspects of an issue. Have a thorough think through of your action plan.

4. Area of influence

• How much of what’s going to happen is within your control?
• Is the area that is within your control realistically significant enough for you to work on your goals?
• Which areas are not within your control?
• How do you persuade the people who are in control of these areas to help you?
• How can you enlarge your area of influence?

5. Resources

Resources are always finite and precious.

Which resources are you lacking in?

How then can you get the resources you need?

If it is not possible, what other ways can the task be done?

• Materials,
• manpower,
• talent,
• role models,
• money,
• time?
• How are you going to allocate your resources?

6. Ecology

How does your outcome fit into your life?

What are the greater implications of your outcome in your life?

Who will be affected if you achieved your desired outcome? In what way?

• Your beliefs
• Lifestyle
• Relationships with others
• Time demands
• Potential loss
• Opportunity cost

7. Identity

• Is this an outcome in alignment with who you are?
• Is this an outcome that will give you short term gain but potential long term loss?
• Does this outcome further express your identity?
• Does this outcome benefits you in one area of your life but is detrimental to another aspect of your life?

8. Coming together/Action Plan

Some desired outcomes might be challenging tasks due to the complexity or the number of resources required. If that is the case, do not get daunted.

Baby steps.

How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time.

List the challenges that are involved and sort out how you can resolve these challenges.

Set smaller outcomes to assist you to move closer to the bigger outcome.

One step at a time.

• What are the challenges?
• How can I resolve them?
• What are the smaller outcomes?
• What should be the sequence for accomplishing the smaller outcomes?

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Joylight 1- Self Talk

CONCEPT – Self Talk (Elixir or Toxic)

Everybody talks to themselves in their heads. And if you are anything like me, it can be a nonstop incessant chatter.

Do you know the nature of your mental chatter?

The attitudes, behavior we adopt everyday are influenced by your self talk. The decisions you make are affected by it too.

What kind of conversations do you have with yourself?

EXERCISE

Observe your mental chatter for a day. Take down notes. You can set alarms at intervals and record what you were saying to yourself at that moment the alarm rings.
The more notes you take, the more insightful the data will be. Examine the quality of your mental chatter.

• Are they positive or negative?
• Do you talk loudly or softly?
• Is your tone friendly, loving, fierce, curt or sarcastic?
• What words do you use?
• What feelings are triggered when you talk to yourself?

At the end of the day, look through at your notes.

Do NOT judge.

Sleep on it.

When you wake up, look at your notes again.
What new insights do you have?

You can start a self awareness diary if you want!

Have a joyful self discovery. 🙂

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